She was restless ,she tried to figure it out but couldn’t .
Why was she feeling like this,it was totally expexcted.
At this stage of life when she was in her mid of 26 th and single .
It was totally okay to feel misfit,you know.
As all friends were already married ,few left ones are busy with their rokas and engagements.Few were busy with their jobs and kids
So wasn’t it expected to feel lonely as she was loosing all her support system from her family too.
Somehow she too felt herself responsible for not getting a suitable match till now.
As she rejected all those prespective grooms at the age of 22 to 25 for her long term boyfriend who just gave up on her simply like that and moved on.
So ,she was left with nothing in her hand but what was making her feel so helpless ??
Wasn’t that obvious, after all she made a mistake by not getting married at an early age of 23 or 24.
Was her desicions ,her choices was really a mistake??
The girl who never used to doubt her decisions failed to answer herself.
At every single night while trying to sleep ,her friend’s voice echoed in her ears “don’t be so choosy “.
Some aunty saying “what do you expect in late 20s ,you don’t have much choices”.
Someone saying “if you find someone just get settled now ,don’t keep finding faults”.
After all it was expected .
She used to stay alone now as her flatmate got married too.
They try to catch up once in a while but doesn’t happen often.
She was thinking to shift her hometown ,may be she will be able to find a decent job their and spend time with her parents but then remembered their tensed face and staying infront of them 24 by 7 is only going to give them more stress by reminding that their daughter is still unmarried.
So she decided to stay there only lead her life as she have always wanted to ,and not think about what if she will not get a suitable match ever .
She shrugged off all her thoughts .
It was ashtami(eighth day of navratri) she had to get ready to for aarti (Evening prayer).
After all maa shakti ( goddess durga) will definitely give her strength to take control of her life even if she doesn’t get a suitable match.
Author’s note : We are worshipping goddess durga but we can not let a single women live peacefully by constantly reminding her that she was incapable of getting a suitable match ,even her own freinds will constantly feel pity for her.Can’t we just leave it to maa shakti,and that girl herself to get the “shakti” to live her life alone till she finds the one.
Their life is already tough lets not make it more tough.
Shakti=strength
Very well written just need to work on appropriate usage of ‘was’ ‘were’ ‘their’ ‘there’ etc.
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Thank you so much for your genuine feedbacks ,will fix it up soon .Keep visiting ,have a nice day 🙂
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You are adressing one of burning issues ,great going.I do keep checking out blogs 🙂 🙂
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Having strength to be who you truly are is courageous and having no match far better than an unsuitable match.. Much better to be true to yourself! x
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Yes Wendy totally agreed, just being yourself should be so natural and without any complications.But sometimes its one of the hardest things to do .Thanks a lot for reading and getting the essence in spite of being someone who is not from India:)
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You’re welcome and I’ve enjoyed expanding my knowledge of other cultures.. it’s eye opening and on this subject I can’t begin to imagine how difficult it must be! x
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Oh that’s really great to hear ,having an understanding of different cultures is something very rare 🙂 🙂
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I think that’s one of my favourite things about blogging.. learning about so many people, places and cultures.. xx
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Yes thats true blogging helps us to get an insight inside the culture and traditions from around the globe
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And to meet great people like you! x
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Well in that case feelings are mutual:D
Thanks for connecting 😀 🙂
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Brilliant – Thanks! x
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Wow Girl. What a strong message to Indian Parents.
I too got married at 29 and faced the same story like you.
I’m happy, you bought Maa Durga as an Example of Strength into this.
Why do people want you to live, they way, they had been thought to ?
Even boys today get married late and have no problems marrying a girl elder to them.
Be Strong Girlie.
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Thanks a lot for your support 🙂 ,glad you liked it 🙂 🙂
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Brave Girl, Way to Go, Girl !!
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good advice to parents
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Reblogged this on Still Another Writer's Blog.
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Inspiring 💞
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Thanks a lot
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That’s something very wrong going on in our society, the way we judge people like this is what keeping us Indians on the back foot. Hats off to this courageous and inspiring post. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK
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Thank you so much for your motivating words ,good to know that people understand the situation ,hope one day things will be changed 🙂
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I enjoy reading your blog.
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Thanks for nominating ,will definitely try to participate
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it would be great
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So much emotions to storm our land. Could we survive that? It’s only the question of time. Just move on…
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Yes its only the question of time 🙂
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Well, it’s the reality. Its such irony that some wait and get betrayed… Some want to wait and still get betrayed.
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Thats true 😦
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😊 That’s why people don’t believe in love and it’s totally acceptable.
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😦 😦
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That is the most gorgeous picture at the top. Did you draw that?
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No no I didn’t ,she is our goddess Durga .Pic source is unknown 😦 .I got it from a friend
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nice post. We all have a life to choose in life. Nice pic.
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Thank yo so much 🙂
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Agree with u absolutely,we have a rite to choose ,its our life ,isn’t ut?why are v getting tortured for being a girl?
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thank you so much 🙂
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lovely post…….
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Thank you 🙂
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Dear Girls!! If boys can extend the age bars to 28 to 35.. you can also do the same.. so chill… focus on your career, rest will fall in place in the right time!! Cheers 🙂
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I could empathize so much with this. I am 28 and dealing with this while staying at home. Sigh! 😦
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Awwwww,I totally get it how it is 🙂 ,26 dealing the same .
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great message to indian parents…infact we, especially girls are tuned to this custom upto some extent and rarely raise our voice..so it’s high time for the parents to wake up
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Yes that’s true akhila ,infact married or not its strictly personnel choice and circumstances ,it doesn’t define us .People need to see us above this all marriage thing .I am not against at marriage at certain age but in case it doesn’t happen ,we don’t need to keep reminding girls and her parents the same thing.
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true..but it will take time for parents to change their notions on this
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Yes absolutely ,all we can do is collect our strength and keep going even if we loose support from everywhere else
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Loved reading the post. You have very aptly described the problems faced by indian women if they remain unmarried for too long
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Thanks for reading ,glad you liked it 🙂 🙂
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truer words have never been said…..it’s derogatory that people and society judge women’s lives by their marital status first and then their accomplishments.
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Thanks just an attempt to give an insight of a single women life .
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I understand this situation. I’ll tell u why society tells u to get married before 30. Because beyond 30 when u want to have a child due to biological aspects complications might just start to arise.the 2nd reason could be their own orthodox mindset.
Since age u mentioned was 26 I think its not that late as people think. This is right age as u people find little stability financially and emotionally in their life and are matured to take appropriate decision.
Waise . kuch to log kahenge. Logon ka kaam hain kehna
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Agreed sup ,every one wants to get settled at the right age but the thing is if someone is single it means they have their own reasons and in that case people should not judge them.on that basis .
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Absolutely.. But u shouldn’t be worried about how people judge u. Because people are less bothered about ur situations and dreams . when u believe in ur reasons and u have clear vision of how u make ur life then rest distraction should be ignored. I know relatives do pressurize to get married but that’s how their brains are designed .
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Hahahahha thts ture and this post is a cheers to all that strength you require to deal with such notions 🙂
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I’m delighted to read ur every post ..
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Thanks a lot for always finding out time 🙂
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I must thank u for always being so gentle and accepting my views
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Your vuews quite amazing on everything you always help me to see a different prespective 🙂
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That’s the beauty here isn’t it. We learn new things from each other.
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Yes that’s the beauty
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I wish we didn’t all have to live up to what others want for us. We all should be able to follow our inner star.
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I too wish so Brenda ,I hope we all could live in a world where people coukd follow “live and let live ” theory.Thanks a lot for reading 🙂
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My pleasure.
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Such a incredible piece of work many should read. Being married or unmarried does not have anything to do with you as a person. Marriage is beautiful but it doesn’t define you as a person. I don’t know why some people pressure others to get married
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Yeah ,such a crucial issue of these days .that’s why decuded to write about it
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Great post
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Thanks morgan 🙂 🙂
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You’re welcome
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🙂
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But.. something special will happen to those who goes through pain.. It’s going to be the best of her life.. happy blogging 🙂
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I wish so too josh ,but living an ordinary life being at peace is something every one deserves and that is the utmost priority
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Your are bigger than what you think and nothing is permanent.. Pls don’t worry.. trust me everything going to be okay.. Josh promise 🙂
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Thank you josh ,though it qas not a personal level still thanks a lot for your beautiful wishes and promise 🙂 🙂
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Cheers 🙂
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nice post! unsaid words express a lot! cheers
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Thanks a lot 🙂 🙂
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Such deeply rooted customs and traditions are hard to erase. A belief system based in superstition and elitism are even harder. Although it will take a very long time to eradicate prejudice, bullying and egoism, it cannot happen without there firstly being those courageous enough to stand and speak their truth.
Well said; I hope your words are heard/read, and begin/strengthen the road to enlightenment for many.
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It will take a long time but I am glad that women are ignoring such norma and living life on their own terms.Thanks a lot for reading 🙂 🙂
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